After many failed first dates, I’ve made it a point to vent to my Uber driver and ask for advice or their input on the dating scene today. I’ve had many enlightening conversations, and compiled some of the best dating tips I’ve received from my past Uber drivers.
1. Be Open-minded
Remember the famous quote from Forrest Gumps mama? “Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get. ” I use that same quote when dating. I’ve gone on great dates with men I thought I would never go for, and I’ve gone on terrible dates with men I’m extremely attracted to. When I go on any date now, I don’t go in with any expectations but to have a good time.
2. Be Picky
You can be open-minded, but you should also have standards. Be picky, selective, and don’t settle for less than you deserve. I’ve said this before, but if you’re not proud or excited to be talking to that person or don’t want to be seen with them, then wait! Most of us meet and come across many different people on a weekly basis. I feel that whomever you date is a reflection of who you are as a person, therefore, you should want to date the best.
3. Keep The Conversation PG
If you can’t talk about it with your parents, don’t discuss it on the first couple of dates. If the topic of sex comes up, keep it short and sweet. I once went to dinner with a guy who got completely wasted over 2 glasses of wine, and started asking me very provocative and inappropriate questions like if I’ve ever kissed a girl, my favorite position, and if I’ve ever had a threesome. I was really turned off by it, but I didn’t stop the conversation right away, therefore, he kept going and then thought I gave him to the green light to grope me.
If the conversation gets uncomfortable, speak up and change the topic. If the topic doesn’t change, call an Uber and leave.
4. Keep It Public
I personally don’t like too much PDA… but little kisses here and there, hand holding, and hugging will totally do.
If you have no intention of having sex with your date, don’t go back to their place afterwards or spend the night. It’s misleading, and it gives false hope. I’ve made this mistake before, and it’s better to end the night on a good note than try to drag it out longer.
5. Have Fun
You’re not going to connect on a deep level right away with every date you have, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time. Go in with minimal expectations, have some fun stories to tell, and questions you want to ask to get to know them! A date isn’t a full on commitment, and you don’t have to feel pressured or nervous. Enjoy the process.
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SPECIAL SHOUTOUT TO THE UBER DRIVERS
Manuel- Thank you for giving me a better perspective on how men date differently than women. Our talk about communicating on a consistent basis is something I’m currently working on with all of my current relationships.
Shawn- Thank you for letting me cry in your car for a good 30 minutes after a crappy date, and stoping the Uber ride so I wouldn’t get charged a ridiculous amount of money. Thank you for also offering to buy me a Milkshake and driving me all around Hollywood because I didn’t want to go home.
Brian- Thank you for telling me about your daughter, and what you learned from a really messy divorce. You really emphasized how we try to move too fast into relationships, and that we really need to take our time and trust the process.
Reyna – You taught me that it’s important to be independent, but still show love and allow myself to receive it. We had a whole car ride about keeping the relationship spicy, staying true to ourselves, and finding common values with our partners.
Andre – “Men do dumb shit all the time, it’s never going to change.” You preached to me about patience, the art of compromise, and acceptance. Sometimes I can be very stubborn, and I’m working on that.